and by first time meeting up I don't mean a date. I love holding hands when I am in a relationship with someone, but not when we don't really. LPT: Try to make a first date one where you both smile when you look .. Taking a stroll and casually holding hands during is a first date thing. I know that on the first date, it's a bit too much to start holding hands with the partner. I am guessing you can start holding hands, or "test the.