Stuck in a sexless marriage? You're not alone. According to data scientist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, the top-searched marriage complaint on. "Forget the popular myth that sex is spontaneous - it's not. You have to create the time and the space," writes Matty Silver. One readers' sexless marriage leaves him wondering what he should do next. One readers' sexless marriage leaves him wondering what he should do next. Instead of merely surviving a sexless marriage, I want to encourage you to do more. You can't survive a relationship that exists with no intimacy. Pick your moment to talk. There are all sorts of reasons people stop having sex – stress, illness, worry about performing, low libido, age.